Rea­ding “The Man In The White Sharks­kin Suit,” by Lucette Lagnado

September 18th, 2009 § 1

I just finished rea­ding The Man in the White Shark­sin Suit: My Family’s Exo­dus from Old Cairo to the New World, by Lucette Lag­nado, a repor­ter for The Wall Street Jour­nal whom we have invi­ted to read as part of Nas­sau Com­mu­nity College’s Lite­ra­ture, Live! rea­ding series, spon­so­red by The Crea­tive Wri­ting Pro­ject (CWP). A memoir that is at once a love let­ter to her father, Leon, and also her mother, Edith, as well as to the city of Cairo and its way of life in the days of King Farouk, The Man in the White Shark­sin Suit chro­nic­les the dif­fi­cul­ties Lagnado’s family faced as they navi­ga­ted the often tor­tuous path they were for­ced to tra­vel from the pri­vi­le­ged life they enjo­yed in Egypt to the dif­fi­cult and, espe­cially for her father, often humi­lia­ting exis­tence that life as exi­les for­ced them into. The book has a lot to say about the arro­gance with which Euro­pean and Ame­ri­can Jews – as indi­vi­duals and as wor­kers in agen­cies that were sup­po­sed to help fami­lies such as Lagnado’s – trea­ted their Miz­rachi core­li­gio­nists, who fled or were for­ced to leave their home coun­tries in the years follo­wing Israel’s foun­ding; and when she tells the story of Syl­via Kirsch­ner, the New York Asso­cia­tion for New Ame­ri­cans (NYANA) case­wor­ker assig­ned to the Lag­nado family, and how Kirsch­ner refu­sed to find any com­pro­mise bet­ween her pro­gres­sive values rela­ting to women and Lagnado’s father’s deeply patriarchal old world values, it is hard not to sym­pathize with Leon. Not because there is anything defen­si­ble in his desire com­ple­tely to rule the lives of the women in his family, but because Lag­nado makes it so clear that Syl­via Kirschner’s into­le­rance only ser­ved to acce­le­rate the unra­ve­ling of the Lag­nado family by encou­ra­ging the inde­pen­dence of Lagando’s older sis­ter Suzette. I’m not sug­ges­ting that Suzette should have allo­wed her­self to remain firmly held in place beneath her father’s patriarchal thumb, but surely there were gent­ler ways of intro­du­cing Leon and Suzette to the grea­ter inde­pen­dence of women in the Uni­ted Sta­tes than Kirschner’s dis­mis­sal of and dis­res­pect for the values Leon had brought with him from an older gene­ra­tion in a far more tra­di­tio­nal part of the world.

There are many other moments in this memoir that are worthy of note – the Ita­lian Catho­lic friend Lag­nado found and lost because of a hou­sing dis­pute bet­ween their parents and the neighborhood’s anti­se­mi­tic res­ponse to that dis­pute; the con­trast Lag­nado draws bet­ween her expe­rience being trea­ted for Hodgkin’s disease by a pri­vate phy­si­cian in New York City and her father’s dis­mal treat­ment at the Jewish Home and Hos­pi­tal, and then at Mt. Sinai Hos­pi­tal, in the last years of his life (and each of these con­tras­ted with the medi­cal treat­ment the family had been able to com­mand when they lived in Egypt, and Leon could sum­mon the best doc­tors in Cairo to look after him and his family); Lagnado’s mee­ting with the woman whose father-in-law and uncle had nego­tia­ted the purchase of the Lag­nado family home when Leon finally, reluc­tantly, rea­li­zed he and his family could no lon­ger remain in Egypt – but what struck me most as I read this book was how much it hin­ted at things I didn’t know about Miz­rachi Jews. Leon’s family was from Aleppo, in Syria, and Lagnado’s dis­cus­sion of that culture’s family tra­di­tions left me frus­tra­ted that I had never lear­ned about them when I was in Hebrew School, or later when I was in yeshiva, and it was ham­me­red into us that kol yis­rael are­vim zeh lazeh, all Jews are res­pon­si­ble for each other. That lofty sen­ti­ment not­withs­tan­ding, the curri­cu­lum we were taught cer­tainly made it seem like the only Jews in the world, or at least the only Jews in the world that mat­te­red, were those of Euro­pean, and espe­cially eas­tern Euro­pean, descent.

It’s not that I didn’t know Miz­rachi Jews exis­ted, and I cer­tainly can­not blame my con­tem­po­rary igno­rance on the faulty edu­ca­tion of my youth. After all, nothing has stop­ped me from edu­ca­ting myself other than the way I have set the prio­ri­ties of my life (and it’s enti­rely pos­si­ble that I would not have pic­ked Lagnado’s book up except that the CWP has cho­sen to invite her), but so much of my early Jewish edu­ca­tion was focu­sed on Israel – the need for Israel, the value of Israel, the strug­gle to found Israel – that it’s sur­pri­sing I remem­ber no atten­tion being paid to the fact that, after Israel’s inde­pen­dence was dec­la­red in 1948, nearly a million Miz­rachi Jews were either for­ced to leave their coun­tries or chose to leave because the con­di­tions there had become unte­na­ble. Surely lear­ning about Israel ought to have meant lear­ning something about the cul­ture of the millions of Miz­rachi Jews who chose to settle there. Equally sur­pri­sing to me is that nowhere in Lagnado’s memoir is Israel men­tio­ned except as either a pri­mary cause of the pro­blems the Jews of Egypt were star­ting to have after 1948 or as one the pla­ces where the Jews of Egypt could go that would accept them without fail. Lag­nado does not laud Israel as the Jewish home­land, nor is there any sense from her book that the Jews of Egypt saw Israel in that way at all; even when she talks about the Egyp­tian Jews who chose to go to Israel, she pre­sents the choice as matter-of-fact, even as des­pe­rate, not as one that might con­tain within it some small part of the hope with which the Euro­pean Zio­nists clearly embra­ced the idea of a Jewish home­land there.

The Man in the White Sharks­kin Suit, howe­ver, is a memoir, not a his­tory. I am sure that there were Miz­rachi Jews who embra­ced the foun­ding of Israel as fer­vently and hope­fully as the Euro­pean Zio­nists did. More, I am sure that the fee­ling I had after rea­ding Lagnado’s book, that the Jews of Egypt were far bet­ter off in Egypt than in any of the pla­ces to which they fled, has more to do with the pri­vi­le­ged life her family lived there than with the rea­lity of the lives of all Egyp­tian Jews. I am fully aware, in other words, that the story of the Miz­rachi Jews is, has got to be, far more com­plex than anything I could learn from rea­ding Lagnado’s memoir; and yet rea­ding the book, espe­cially the chap­ter called “The Last Days of Tar­boosh,” brought me back to a trans­la­tion con­fe­rence panel I was on with Ammiel Alca­lay and Sami Che­trit, a Miz­rachi Jew (Moroc­can, if I remem­ber correctly). During his talk Che­trit spoke of how – and I am paraph­ra­sing here; I wish I could remem­ber his exact words – the Euro­pean Zio­nist Jews colo­ni­zed the Miz­rachi Jews, repla­cing the Miz­rachi narra­tive with the Euro­pean Jewish narra­tive, even to the point of usur­ping the language(s) Miz­rachi Jews had been spea­king for cen­tu­ries, if not mille­nia, before Israel was foun­ded. (I am not sure if this was a refe­rence to the European-based revi­val of Hebrew as the Jewish natio­nal lan­guage or to some other con­flict over lan­guage.) His sta­te­ments sur­pri­sed me in much the same way that rea­ding Lagnado’s books did, because they hin­ted at a story I did not know, that felt like I should have known it.

Like Lag­nado, Che­trit obviously has a pers­pec­tive, and a bias, and I am in no way infor­med enough to judge the accu­racy of what he said. What I can say is that any Jewish edu­ca­tion worth its salt should have as one of its goals making its stu­dents that infor­med, or at least teaching them that they should feel res­pon­si­ble for infor­ming them­sel­ves; and that most cer­tainly is not the Jewish edu­ca­tion I recei­ved. Indeed, the Jewish edu­ca­tion I recei­ved ren­de­red both Chetrit’s pers­pec­tive and Lagnado’s story enti­rely invi­si­ble, and it did so not only in the inte­rest of making Israel cen­tral to Jewish-American iden­tity, but also to esta­blishing the Zio­nist narra­tive of the foun­ding of Israel as the uni­ver­sal Jewish narra­tive of the foun­ding of Israel. Sto­ries like Chetrit’s and Lagnado’s demons­trate that such uni­ver­sa­lity is a myth. Con­fron­ting that myth is impor­tant not because it calls into ques­tion Israel’s right to exist (it makes me angry that I feel I even have to say that) but because coming to terms with the full com­ple­xity of the narra­tive of Israel’s foun­ding is the only way I know to come to terms with the fact that I, as a Jew – and maybe this applies to con­cer­ned peo­ple who aren’t Jewish as well – can­not not take a posi­tion regar­ding Israel’s exis­tence as a Jewish state.

(I’ve writ­ten more about this issue in the series I wrote called What We Talk About (And Don’t Talk About) When We Talk About (And Don’t Talk About) anti­se­mi­tism and Israel. The link will take you to part 4 of the series; there is a list of the other posts in the series at the bot­tom of that post.)

Lucette Lagnado’s rea­ding at Nas­sau Com­mu­nity College is sche­du­led for March 2010, date and time to be announ­ced. For more infor­ma­tion, please visit the Crea­tive Wri­ting Pro­ject web­site.

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